can you help me

不行

Let's forget it.

write a litter to her

这就是所谓的婚外恋吗,你有没有想过你是否还爱着那个为你每天作饭洗衣,忙里忙外的操持着这个家的妻子呢?而那个女孩对你的态度有是什么样的?她愿意放下一切跟着你吗?希望你好好考虑一下啊

i think u should think about which woman is more important in your life,you wife or the girl you fall in love with,and then you can make your decision.

Ok,before answer this question, i want to ask you a question too. Whether you had consider giving up your family to get married with that girl????? Do you still love your wife??????? And are you sure that girl love you too??

I think you should think over about these things, then make a decision. otherwise you will hurt two womens.

To this problem, i can't give you a direct response. perhaps, i can suggest you listen one program which held by 胡晓梅（夜空不寂寞）. or you can join that program to express your current situation to serch help. I think that holder will give you some suggestion.

The above is what i can do for you, hope everything goes you will!

Best regards,

Guitar

是人,都没有办法避免心中装有2个以上的人.这种现象应该是正常的.但是,你毕竟是一个有家室的人,你有妻子,甚至还有孩子,你不能违背你们结婚时许下的诺言.另外一个女孩,也许只是你生命中匆匆走过的过客,真正要与你走完一生的是你的妻子.所以,你要清晰地了解到这一点,忘记那个人,用你现在美满的生活充斥你的脑子,不要再去想多余的事情.如果你犯下错误,只会让你一错再错,如果你现在和那个人好,如果下次遇到更好的,你会怎么办呢?所以要坚守一颗爱情的种子,去用你的真心去灌溉!!!